Yep, the copper crush rings stayed in the head. My TEC system came with two new copper rings of 43mm dia. I'd imagine S&S will include a pair.
Sorry, I don't have a PN. Hitchcocks can probably help with that.
TEC USA does, indeed, seem challenged by email correspondence. Many of us have had that experience.
If you end up "gasket bereft" PM me with your address and I'll give you a pair.