I told my wife I was getting a bike. Didn't ask mind you, but used a calm, matter-of-fact tone. She fussed and whined and I said nothing. One day she came home from work and went into the garage and saw the bike. She fused and whined and I said, in a calm matter-of-fact tone "I told you I was getting a bike." Still have the bike and the wife.
I am a devout family man and almost always sacrifice selfish desires to do the responsible thing. Every now and then I decide to do something or get something and just do it. I let the wife do what she pleases, I don't own her. Won't be owned either.