Tom-
I waited awhile before posting, because I didn't want to be distracting.
You have my condolences. I sort of know what you've gone through, as my father just died in January, after an almost year-long struggle with a brain tumor. It was a very difficult time for him, and all of my family, but I want to say how grateful I am that this community is here; it was a great relief to have this little outlet of "normalcy" to distract me when I needed it.
I know this isn't about a lost member, but it seems like a good place to mention it and to express my gratitude to all of you, my "imaginary" friends...